Prohibiting a wife from obeying her husband in an act of disobedience
Is it permissible for a wife to comply with her husband regarding matters she feels do not please Allah,
though she feels that conforming to her husband will help him become a better person? Moreover, she sometimes feels compelled to lie to her husband only with the intention of gaining some benefit?
It is not permissible for a wife to obey her husband in matters involving disobeying Allah such as having anal intercourse or intercourse during menstruation. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said,
"There is no obedience to a creature in matters involving disobedience to the Creator."
The Prophet (peace be upon him) also said:
"Obedience is obligatory only in what is good (and reasonable)."
As for telling the husband a lie, there is no harm in that if it leads to some benefit and does not harm anyone. This is because the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave Rukhsah (concession) to both the husband and wife that they may tell the other a lie provided that it brings benefit and that it does not harm anyone. May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.