Q: I am a twenty seven year old Sudanese man. I am very concerned with
the matter of marriage,
which is my only means (Part No. 18; Page No. 15) to stay away from committing unlawful practices which Allah and His Messenger forbade. I came to this blessed land to perform `Umrah (lesser pilgrimage), offer Salah (Prayer) in the Masjid (mosque) of the Prophet (peace be upon him) and look for work. I wanted to make money to be able to afford the requirements of marriage but this was too difficult for me. I spent all the money I had made on my family. I could not save any money for myself because my family's conditions are as follows:First: My father is an old man and I am the only son in a family of seven daughters. I cannot ignore helping them because my father is over seventy years old and no longer able to work. Even if he is able to work, he can hardly support himself financially. Therefore, I quit studying to find work and help them. Now, I am very eager to marry as I fear to commit a sin which displeases Allah. It should be noted that sins are surrounding me in different ways. I hope I will find an answer for the following questions: 1- Is it permissible for me to ask for financial assistance from benevolent people? 2- Is it permissible for me to stop helping my parents who brought me up and who receive help from no one but Allah (may He be Glorified and Praised) then me? (Part No. 18; Page No. 16) It is worth mentioning that I fear the devil's temptation and I hope to stay adhering to the orders of Allah (may He be Gloried and Exalted) till death.
You have to be a dutiful son to your parents, take care of them and seek Allah's Provision to be able to afford the marriage requirements, and Allah will make things easy for you, Allah Willing. Allah (Exalted be He) says:
And whosoever fears Allâh and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty).
And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allâh, then He will suffice him.
So, you have to fear Allah, place your trust in Him, and seek His Provision through legal means. There is no harm in asking wealthy people to help you in this matter. May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.