Is it permissible for a girl of full age,
about 23 years old, who has not yet been asked for in marriage and is still a virgin, to tell her Waliy (a legally accountable person acting for a woman regarding marriage) that she desires marriage, giving birth to children and caring for a husband? Is it permissible to tell him that she wants to experience a happy and peaceful marital life so that he may seek a good religious man and then ask him to marry his daughter or the girl under his guardianship? In fact,
`Umar ibn Al-Khattab
set the example in this regard when he offered to give his daughter
Hafsah in marriage
to righteous people to be later married to the Prophet (peace be upon him).Give me a detailed fatwa, may Allah reward you. Would you advise Waliys of unmarried girls whom no one asked in marriage to proceed to offer to give them in marriage to righteous people? Answer my questions, may Allah bless you.
It is unobjectionable that she tells her Waliy about her desire to marry. It is also unobjectionable that the Waliy offers to give his daughter or the girl under his guardianship in marriage to those whom he thinks to be righteous, good and trustworthy. However, such an offer should be adequate. This is supported by the story mentioned (Part No. 18; Page No. 42) in the question that
`Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) offered to give his daughter
Hafsah who became a widow, in marriage to
Abu Bakr and
`Uthman (may Allah be pleased with them).
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.