Q 4: A man
claims that his wife usually refuses to fulfill his sexual desire. He has three children from her. Recently, whenever he asks her to sleep with him, she refuses claiming that she is ill or tired. She always offers lame excuses
for not fulfilling his sexual desire and he shows patience. He always reminds her of the impermissibility of what she is doing. It is worth mentioning that this wife is highly educated. She asks him to hire a maidservant for her and always burdens him with her requests. When he asks her to sleep with him and she refuses, he masturbates on the bed for fear of committing Zina (adultery). Is it permissible for him to marry a second wife? What is your advice? What is the ruling on masturbation in this case?
Marrying a second wife has never been Haram (prohibited) or Makruh (disliked). In fact, it is permissible for a man to marry a second wife if he has the physical and financial ability to do so. (Part No. 19; Page No. 378) However, he has to observe equity between his wives. He should advise his wife, remind her to fear Allah, and tell her about the gravity of violating the husband's right and the necessity of obeying him. He should treat her kindly and discuss the reasons why she refuses to fulfill his sexual desire. He has to make Tawbah (repentance to Allah) for masturbation. May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.