Is it permissible for women to visit the graves?
It is not permissible for women to visit the graves as the Prophet (peace be upon him) cursed the women who do this, for fear that Fitnah (temptation) may take place when women come to the graves grieving and wailing. On the other hand, it is Mustahab (desirable) for men to visit the graves if they are to follow the Mashru` (Islamically prescribed) way of sending Salam (Islamic greeting of peace), supplicating for the deceased and taking warning from their condition. However, visiting the graves for Tabarruk (seeking blessings) and supplicating to the deceased is Bid`ah Shirkiyyah (innovation in religion tantamount to associating others with Allah in His Divinity or worship) that is not permissible either for men or women. Likewise, visiting the graves to supplicate and recite the Qur'an there is a Bid`ah (innovation in religion) and a means leading to Shirk (associating others with Allah in His Divinity or worship). (Part No. 7; Page No. 447) May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.