Q 7: What are
the Shar`y (Islamically lawful) words of consolation?
It is permissible to console a bereaved person by making Du`a' (supplication) for him and for the dead person. There is no specific formula regarding this, according to
the Shaykh of Islam Ibn Taymiyyah A mourner may console a bereaved person by saying: May Allah grant you a great reward, good consolation and may He forgive your dead. It was narrated by
Imam Ahmad in his Musnad (Hadith compilation) that
The Prophet (peace be upon him) offered condolences to a man saying: "May Allah be merciful to him and reward you."
It was narrated that
The Prophet (peace be upon him) offered condolences to a woman whose son had died saying: "Whatever Allah takes is for Him and whatever He gives, is for Him, and everything has a limited fixed term (in this world)." He (peace be upon him) ordered her to be patient and to hope for Allah's reward for real patience is that which is shown immediately after receiving a shock.
The person who receives consolation may reply by saying: May Allah answer your supplication and may He be merciful to you and us.May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.