Q 3: I read in a book titled Al-Hawy Li Al-Fatawy by Imam
that the dead can hear what the living people say about them and their praise of them. (Part No. 9; Page No. 82) They also know the living people who visit them and that the dead pay visits to one another. Is this true and acceptable? Imam Al-Suyuty relied upon some Hadiths and Athar (narrations from the Companions) in the Vol. 2, P.169, 170, 171.
The basic ruling is that the dead do not hear the living except in cases supported with a Nas (Islamic text from the Qur’an or the Sunnah). Allah (Exalted be He) says to His Prophet (peace be upon him):
So verily, you (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم) cannot make the dead to hear (i.e. The disbelievers)
and He (Exalted be He) says:
...but you cannot make hear those who are in graves.
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.