Obligation to show equality between sons and daughters
As for dividing the money among male children only while excluding the females, (Part No. 16; Page No. 197) the Shari`ah (Islamic law) enjoined
observing equality in dealing with children whether they are male or female. It is recorded in the Two Sahih (authentic) Books of Hadith (Al-Bukhari and Muslim) on the authority of
Al-Nu`man ibn Bashir (may Allah be pleased with both of them)
that his father granted him a slave boy and went to the Prophet (peace be upon him) to make him a witness to this donation. The Prophet (peace be upon him) asked him: Have you done the same with each of your sons? He said: No. Then, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said to him: Fear Allah and treat your sons equally.
According to another narration of the Hadith, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
I cannot bear witness to an injustice.
Thus, your father, deciding to divide his wealth wholly or partially, has to divide it among both males and females in accordance with the rules provided for by Islamic inheritance, meaning, the male receives a share equal to that of two females. He should not be concerned about children who are yet to be born. However, in the case of a fetus, division has to be delayed till delivery takes place. Moreover, it is impermissible to give any of them a share that is more than that defined in the Qur'an:
...to the male, a portion equal to that of two females
This is regardless of whether it is categorized as charity, gift or selling for a paltry price unless the other children who are legally mature approve of it. However, each approval is only applicable to their respective share. Furthermore, he may not approve of it on behalf of his young children, male or female. As for your mother's rights over your father, (Part No. 16; Page No. 198) the following is a necessarily detailed reply: if she is unrightfully disobedient to him, she will have no rights over him, with regard to clothing or any thing else. This remains effective until she stops being disobedient and obeys his commands in a way that is reasonable. However, if she refused to obey him as he deprives her of her rights, it would be a dispute which has to be brought to court unless they settle it consensually. In addition, it will be more adequate to seek the interference of some righteous relatives and neighbors to cause reconciliation. In fact, reconciliation is good. May Allah set right all our affairs! May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.