Helping one's sons financially to cover the expenses of marriage
Q: I am a sixty-one-year-old man. I was injured in a car accident nine years ago, where my right leg and my left shoulder were broken. I underwent many surgeries in my leg, and I had nails fixed in my thigh. My eyesight has been deteriorating badly. Only Allah (Glorified and Exalted be He) knows my situation. As for my social and financial status, I am a security guard in Abna' Al-Kharif company in return for two thousand Riyals a month, and I live in an old rented house. I support my family that consists of three boys, two of whom are the subject of my question. My eldest son is called Muhammad; he is twenty two years old. He asks me to help him get married although I am impoverished. I had sent him to school but he refused to go. I asked him to depend on himself in his marriage, but he refused. He has been hanging out with his friends all the time for the past six years. My second son, Salih, is fifteen years old. His left arm and leg are paralyzed, and he is still studying. He has reached the age of puberty, and he wants to (Part No. 21; Page No. 179) get married as well. My third son is called `Abdul-Hamid. He is eleven years old, and he is a student. Please advise concerning helping my sons get married, especially my eldest son Muhammad, given that I am poor and do not have the means to support them. Am I considered sinful? I know that
a father should help his son get married.
However, I have only my daily sustenance. Please advise, Your Eminence, whether I am sinful or not. May Allah reward you.
If the situation is as you have mentioned, there is no harm in you not helping them get married, according to Allah's saying,
Allâh burdens not a person beyond his scope.
Allah also says,
...and He has not laid upon you in religion any hardship
May Allah help you and guide you to the goodness of this world and the Hereafter.May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.