Is it better to supplicate Allah (Exalted be He) for the deceased or to recite the Qur'an on their behalf? Is it permissible to give the deceased person the title of Al-Marhum (the one who has been granted mercy) or is it better
to seek Allah's Mercy for him? Is it permissible to put a lamp or other things on the grave?
First, it is permissible to invoke Allah (Exalted be He) and ask His Forgiveness for the deceased Muslim according to the evidence that supports this. Second, there is no evidence supporting the permissibility of reciting the Qur'an on behalf of the deceased. (Part No. 9; Page No. 141) Third, it is impermissible to place a lamp or any other source of lighting on the grave because of the report in which the Prophet (peace be upon him) cursed women who visit graves and those who place lights on graves and take them as a place of worship. Fourth, it is impermissible to give a deceased Muslim the title of Al-Marhum; rather, it is better to say may Allah be merciful to him.May Allah grant us success. May Peace and blessings of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family and Companions.